Sunday, August 3, 2014
THE FOUR AGREEMENTS
All too frequently relationships, even friendships and acquaintances, can get bogged down in assumptions about how the other person is supposed to behave, implicit agreements about how the relationship is to proceed, and other burdens that can sap associations whether romantic or platonic from the freshness that they'd otherwise offer and the fulfillment that they can bring.
But not all agreements constrain a friendship. Some, like these four from Don Miguel Ruiz, can actually open up a relationship and lead to personal growth, mutual benefit, even Self-realization. So keep these four agreements in mind when interacting with loved ones and even strangers. Even agreeing to disagree doesn't have to be that bad. It's all how you go about it.
Be Impeccable with Your Word
Speak with integrity. Say only what you mean. Avoid using the word to speak against yourself or to gossip about others. Use the power of your word in the direction of truth and love. Be mindful of the promises you make in speech and let your behavior fulfill what you say.
Don't Take Anything Personally
Nothing others do is because of you. What others say and do is a projection of their own dream. When you are immune to the opinions and actions of others, you won't be the victim of needless suffering.
Don't Make Assumptions
Find the courage to ask questions and to express what you really want. Communicate with others as clearly as you can to avoid misunderstandings, sadness, and drama. With just this one agreement, you can completely transform your life.
Always Do Your Best
Your best is going to change from moment to moment; it will be different when you are healthy as opposed to sick. Under any circumstance, simply do your best, and you will avoid self-judgment, self-abuse, and regret.